MY PATH
I grew up learning how to do hard things. Ankle weights in fourth grade. Up at 5 a.m. to run before school. College football and baseball at Dartmouth, then the Marine Corps. I learned discipline, how to lead under pressure, how to operate in combat.
But I didn't know how to rest. Couldn't feel. Didn't know joy without earning it. It worked, until it didn't.
When my father died, everything collapsed. For years after leaving the military, I chased success and achievement while feeling restless, stuck, numb inside.
Then my son was born. Something ancient stirred—a fire for something real. I didn't have answers, but I couldn't keep living on autopilot.
That began the descent.
I slowed down. Started turning toward my pain instead of performing past it. Saw how my early separation from my mother, the chaos of my home, the constant striving had shaped everything—how I loved, led, lived.
The body I was never taught to inhabit. The heart I'd defended for decades. The father I needed but never fully had—I'm learning to become that presence, first for myself, then for my kids, then for the men I serve.
It's messy. I fuck it up daily. But there's nowhere to arrive. There's only this: the practice of staying present when everything in me wants to run.
These days I live with my wife and four kids by the ocean in North Carolina. We're unschooling them close to nature. I surf, practice improv, and build community here.
Gone Beyond grew out of this messy practice—the stumbling, the healing, the slow work of becoming honest.
I guide men not because I've figured it out, but because I'm walking the path. From that lived experience, I serve.
THE
PARADIGM OF GONE BEYOND
An invitation to stop performing and start living.
Most of us were raised separated from our bodies, pushed into performance, taught that our worth comes from what we produce, not who we are. We've spent decades proving ourselves, achieving, building—all while becoming more disconnected from the very things that make us feel alive.
The old paradigm promised that if we worked hard enough, achieved enough, fixed enough about ourselves, we'd finally arrive. But that's the trap. It keeps us chasing wholeness by starting from the belief that we're broken.
Gone Beyond points to a different way: Unfoldment through initiation.
You are already whole. You don't need to become someone else. You need to remember who you've always been beneath the conditioning, the trauma, the relentless drive to prove your worth.
This isn't self-improvement. It's self-remembrance.
A PATH: FOUR INITIATIONS
This remembering happens through four deepening layers. Not once, but again and again—a spiral that takes you deeper each time.
SOMA — Returning to a body that can finally be home
Inhabiting the body that was never properly welcomed. Building nervous system capacity to stay present with intensity. Creating the foundation of safety that makes everything else possible.
HEART — Cultivating the heart as the seat of awareness
Our culture trains us to live in our heads—analyzing, strategizing, controlling. The heart is an organ of perception that can hold what the thinking mind cannot. When we descend from head to heart, we access loving awareness: the capacity to see clearly, feel deeply, and stay open. This is where wisdom lives.
DEVOTION — Living from what's actually sacred to you
Discovering the through-line of your life—what you've always been devoted to, even without language for it. Not aspirational values imposed from outside, but the archaeology of who you've always been. A life organized around what truly matters.
SERVICE — Becoming a sacred father to yourself, your children, and the world
Sacred fathering is generative presence: the capacity to hold without controlling, protect without dominating, nurture without smothering. This isn't about individual achievement. It's about finding your place in the larger web—recognizing your smallness in the vastness, and serving from that humility.
“You do not need to go anywhere or attain anything. What you seek is already here, unfolding in the immediacy of your own being.”
— A.H. Almaas, The Unfolding Now
"The outward work can never be great if the inward work is small."
— Meister Eckhart
Gone Beyond is an invitation to walk the path of being real, to love what's real, to open to yourself with compassion and curiosity, and to discover what it truly means to be a man—awake to life, devoted to what's sacred, alive to what's possible.
This is leadership through presence: the courage to be with what is, to meet life as practice, and to become the father the world needs.
You don't father from having it figured out. You father from being willing to feel, to stay, to show up imperfectly again and again.
This is initiatory work. It will ask you to face what you've avoided, grieve what needs to be grieved, and build capacity to stay present when everything in you wants to run or perform your way through.
But on the other side is aliveness. Clarity. The deep knowing that you're finally living from what's true.
Walk your path with intention. Together we can uncover the fulfillment, growth, and expansion you’re seeking.
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